Showing posts with label confused. Show all posts
Showing posts with label confused. Show all posts

Wednesday, 21 May 2014

It's still an insult.

Why do guys think that because they insult a girl in a "polite" way that it is okay?

Okay, so maybe I'm generalising here but for the purpose of this blog post, I am going to relay my own experiences. Last night I was speaking to this guy on kik (I have no idea who he is) and he told me that I was exactly his type. I then proceeded to ask him what his type was and he said, "nice and thick." After extensive research (I gooogled it) I have come to discover that apparently "thick" can mean several different things. In my opinion however, it means that you are a big girl (overweight, whether by a small bit or a large bit).

I know that there are girls who like being called that. I am not one of them. I know that I am a big girl. I don't need to be reminded of that. Maybe this guy didn't mean anything by it but this is just one incident. I have had guys, on more than one occasion, tell me that they like me because I am big. Well I'd rather they didn't. I do not like the way that I look and I'm trying to change that. I don't know if they think that by saying that I'll feel better about myself; if that's what they're trying to do. I don't know. I am not a guy and I do not pretend to know what goes on inside their heads. I just felt like I needed to vent about this because too many guys say this and it's not okay.

If you like me then that's great (it's a miracle really) but don't say that it's because I'm fat. An insult disguised as a compliment is still an insult.